Move beyond what I call “Generic Romance.”
Generic Romance is the stuff that our culture has defined as “romantic”: Chocolate, champagne, dinners, diamonds, movies, roses, lingerie, perfume, flowers, cards, and candy. Yes, this stuff is romantic (yes, I give roses to my gf sometimes) but it’s only a start, it’s just skimming the surface.
If you expect your relationship to survive (much less thrive) for fifty years or more, you must move waaay beyond Generic Romance.
Timing is everything.
• Pulling surprises requires a superb sense of timing.
• Belated birthday cards ought to be outlawed.
• Chocolate is romantic, but not if she’s on a diet. :P
• Stick to small romantic gestures when he’s totally preoccupied with a big work project. (Save the biggies until he can appreciate them.)
Flirt with her at a party, as if you were both single.
• Freshmen level: Flirt just a little. Wink. Compliment her.
• Sophomore level: Act out a complete “pick-up” fantasy, without any of the other guests being aware of what you’re doing.
• Junior level: Continue the fantasy as you return home!
• Senior level: Act out the complete “pickup” fantasy at the party—and sneak off to an empty room, car, or closet, and make, you know... :P mad, passionate love!
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