We’re not talking passion here, but affection. (We’ll get to passion elsewhere!…)
A tiny bit of forethought can turn the ordinary into the special.
Recognize that one mode of expression isn’t enough. We all have natural patterns that we follow; behaviors that are easy, natural, habitual; modes of expression that we fall into without even thinking about it. And these modes of expression are not particularly gender-based.
Do you talk about your feelings, or do you act
on your feelings? Are you quick and spontaneous, or slow and methodical? Do you process information primarily through your head, or through your heart? Do you express yourself directly, or subtly?
There’s no “right” and “wrong” here, simply “your” way and your partner’s way. So the first lesson is to accept that your partner has a variety of different ways of expressing his or her feelings.
Honor and respect these differences.
The second lesson is to recognize your own modes of communication. Your easiest path to better communication will be through your natural channels.
