"Hachara disease"

Here I am... sitting in my desk.. in my room... high up in the mountains... in the middle of a nowhere i call home...

now awake for 36 hours straight... i don't know why i haven't slept... i didn't know why...

i had just hung up my phone... something's different... her voice.. her breathing was different... 

I sat for 30 minutes... my friends were here... i could only see them talk.. i didn't hear a word they said...

something was wrong with me...

you don't sound okay.. i had asked her, and you seem to be hiding something....

she said no.. am fine... i knew she was lying and i told her... liar! 

she said i'm fine... and i believed her...

it's a little past 5 am, she excuses herself... we're leaving to beirut... 

her appointment is not before 8... and before i ask her...

we're making a stop before we get there... she said

i could swear she's not okay... but i let her go... she wanted me to let her go...

yes..it's what i feel the most bad about... i should have insisted.. but..

yeah... i get an sms from her saying she is in a hospital room... 

and a blog post notification... her blog...

and yes i had to learn it from her blog that she is undergoing surgery...

i don't know what i'm feeling right now... i don't know what i'm doing here on my blog...

I just hope she gets well soon.. very soon...

I Love you koukou

allah y5alile albik w y2awmik bkher w salemeh...

Senior Lessons

Yes I know it's been a while... 


3 whole months and 9 days exactly :) since I last posted anything on here... 
13 / 4 / 2011 the day i met her... then nothing was ever like before :)
And then University and Work... but here I am and as always open for feedback and comments :)


After our Freshman Sophomore and Junior lessons, it is time for the Senior lessons...
First of all, Senior biology differs from Senior Psychology:

• Senior Biology: When it comes to sex and sexuality, men and women are different!
• Senior Psychology: But when it comes to emotions and love, men and women are much more alike than we are different.

You can be yourself and it works! 

It’s astonishing to me that so many people think that “being romantic”  somehow means something other than “being yourself.”

Men don’t really expect women to be playmates, and women don’t really expect men to be Harlequin heroes. What we all really want is the spark, the magic, the thrill of love: the experience we all had at the beginning of our relationships. This experience can be recreated through romance. That is, through the creative expression of your

feelings. You never need to be someone you aren’t, but you do need to stay in touch with your feelings, and then act on them.

Start with any basic romantic concept, then give it a twist— build on it, expand it, exaggerate it, use your creativity, put your personal stamp on it—and you’ll create an endless supply of new romantic ideas.

I'll leave you with that,

stay tuned 

Ali

Junior Lessons

Turn common, everyday events into “little celebrations” - opportunities to express your love for your partner.

We’re not talking passion here, but affection. (We’ll get to passion elsewhere!…) 


A tiny bit of forethought can turn the ordinary into the special. 



Recognize that one mode of expression isn’t enough. We all have natural patterns that we follow; behaviors that are easy, natural, habitual; modes of expression that we fall into without even thinking about it. And these modes of expression are not particularly gender-based. 


Do you talk about your feelings, or do you act
on your feelings? Are you quick and spontaneous, or slow and methodical? Do you process information primarily through your head, or through your heart? Do you express yourself directly, or subtly?



There’s no “right” and “wrong” here, simply “your” way and your partner’s way. So the first lesson is to accept that your partner has a variety of different ways of expressing his or her feelings. 
Honor and respect these differences.


The second lesson is to recognize your own modes of communication. Your easiest path to better communication will be through your natural channels.

Sophomore Lessons

Move beyond what I call “Generic Romance.”
Generic Romance is the stuff that our culture has defined as “romantic”: Chocolate, champagne, dinners, diamonds, movies, roses, lingerie, perfume, flowers, cards, and candy. Yes, this stuff is romantic (yes, I give roses to my gf sometimes) but it’s only a start, it’s just skimming the surface.
If you expect your relationship to survive (much less thrive) for fifty years or more, you must move waaay beyond Generic Romance.



Timing is everything.
• Pulling surprises requires a superb sense of timing.
• Belated birthday cards ought to be outlawed.
• Chocolate is romantic, but not if she’s on a diet. :P
• Stick to small romantic gestures when he’s totally preoccupied with a big work project. (Save the biggies until he can appreciate them.)



Flirt with her at a party, as if you were both single.
• Freshmen level: Flirt just a little. Wink. Compliment her.
• Sophomore level: Act out a complete “pick-up” fantasy, without any of the other guests being aware of what you’re doing.
• Junior level: Continue the fantasy as you return home!
• Senior level: Act out the complete “pickup” fantasy at the party—and sneak off to an empty room, car, or closet, and make, you know... :P mad, passionate love!

Freshman Lessons

Romance is a state of mind. If you have the right mindset, you can make cleaning the bathroom romantic. If you have the wrong mindset, you can turn a moonlit stroll on the beach into a miserable experience.




Romance is a state of being. It’s about taking action on your feelings. It’s a recognition that love in the abstract has no real meaning at all! Romance is best defined as “love-in-action.” Love is the feeling—romance is the action. Got it?? 
Romance often starts as a “state of mind,” but it must move beyond mere thoughts and intentions, and be communicated to your lover through words, gifts, presents, gestures, touches, looks --> through action.



Romance is about the little things. It’s much more about the small gestures, the little ways of making daily life with your lover a bit more special, than it is about extravagant, expensive gestures.



There are two kinds of romance: 1) Obligatory, and 2) Optional. 
Obligatory romance is required by law. Look, if you forget to send roses on Valentine’s Day, you’d simply better not show up at home! But optional romance is really more romantic.It’s more genuine. It’s making the romantic gesture when you’re not required to. It’s arriving home on a Tuesday after work with flowers—just because! It’s massages and messages. It’s cards and candles and songs and…

The Fundamental Things Apply

Romantics have their priorities straight.
What are your priorities? What I mean is, what are your true priorities?
In other words, how do you spend your time? How you spend your time reflects your true priorities. (Most people claim that home and family are most important to them, but their actions don’t reflect this.)


Living a life full of love is about getting your actions into alignment with your beliefs.

• Make an honest appraisal of how you spend your time. Make a chart of how you spend an average week. You’ll probably make some interesting discoveries!

• Say to her, “Let’s plan a special outing: A lunch-date, dinner-date, movie, whatever. You choose the time and place, and I’ll be there, regardless of my previous plans.” This shows that she has top priority, over work, friends, hobbies, etc.

• You sometimes work overtime at work, right? Why not occasionally work “overtime” on your relationship?

Romantics know that love is a process.

While on the one hand romantics tend to live in the moment, we also expect to be around for a while, so we don’t fret too much about today’s problems.

We know that love, like life, is a process. Things change. Things grow. There is a future coming our way, and it’s probably going to

be pretty good!

Finally, adjust your daily schedule in some small way to advance the process of love in your life. 

Women Are (Not) from Venus*

Sara shares this story: “The most romantic gift my husband ever gave me was a pair of needle-nose pliers.



“You see, my family draws names for Christmas gifts, and my wish list always includes tools, I just like to fix things, but nobody ever gives me any! The year I didn't get the needle-nose pliers I requested, I happened to mention to my husband, Mark, that it bothered me that my family didn't take me seriously.



“When December arrived and we were short on cash, Mark and I decided not to give each other any gifts. Celebrating Christmas with Mark’s family, I found a tiny wrapped gift from my husband under the tree. His family simply didn't understand why a pair of pliers would bring tears of happiness to my eyes!”



Be aware of the differences in men’s and women’s styles of communicating, but don’t over-emphasize them. If you focus on the gap, you’ll overlook the bridges!



Bridge #1: The fact that underneath all our differences in style, men and women all want the same things: to be loved, cared for, respected, and appreciated; to have a place of safety and security where we can be ourselves, grow, experiment, and mature.



Bridge #2: Romance itself. Romance is a bridge between the sexes, as it is the expression of love. Romance is a language that uses words, gestures, and tokens to communicate the subtle, multifaceted, and complicated feelings of love.


Finally, and to wrap up these latest post, George Carlin says:

“Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. Deal with it.”

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Women Are from Venus