Be aware that men and women tend to have different styles of communicating.
A man engages the world as “an individual in a hierarchical world social order in which he [is] either one-up or one-down.”
A woman, on the other hand, approaches the world as “an individual in the world of connections.
In this world, conversations are negotiations for closeness in which people try to seek and give confirmation and support, and to reach consensus.”
Ladies: Do you really think that he thinks the way you think?
Gentlemen: Do you really think that she thinks the way you think?
Everyone:
Think again!
He gives her lingerie:
• What he means: “You’d look great in this.”
• How she takes it: “He wants me to look like a slut!”
She wants to go out for dinner and a movie:
• What she means: “I want to go out for dinner and a movie.”
• How he takes it: “I’m going to go broke!”
He gives her one red rose:
• What he means: “This symbolizes my love for you.”
• How she takes it: “He’s too cheap to buy a dozen.”
She gives him a Love book:
• What she means: “This will improve our relationship.”
• How he takes it: “She’s trying to turn me into someone else.”
What to do? Talk more. Assume less. Listen more. Open your heart. Check your assumptions. And keep trying.
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